It sounds like you're experiencing significant frustration with Windows updates, particularly regarding their impact on your system's performance and usability. While I can't address your concerns directly, I can provide some general information about managing Windows updates.
If you're looking to prevent forced updates in the future, you can configure Windows Update settings through the Group Policy Editor or the Windows Update settings in the system. For instance, you can disable automatic updates or limit the hours during which updates can occur to avoid disruptions during your usage.
It's important to have a well-designed servicing strategy for your device, especially if you're using it in a critical environment. Disabling Windows Update features can leave your device vulnerable if not managed properly.
If you continue to experience issues, consider reaching out to Microsoft Support for assistance or to report your concerns directly.
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