To remove yourself from the family safety features in Microsoft, you typically need to leave the family group. However, if your date of birth is incorrect and it's causing issues, you may need to contact Microsoft support for assistance in verifying your identity and correcting your date of birth. Unfortunately, there isn't a straightforward way to change your date of birth directly in the family safety settings if it's locked. Verifying your identity with ID may help in this process.
For more detailed steps, I recommend checking the Microsoft support documentation or contacting their support team directly for assistance with your specific situation.
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